Good day Dearest reader,
Once again we are right out of soup for tonight. Sometimes there is just not enough of things to go around…
But, this is okay. Sometimes we need a bit more substinance than watered down words or ingrediants. Sometimes the complexity and confusion of following a pre-set recipe is too much at the moment.
The feeling of overwhelm.
The cure is called:
TRY HAVING A CUP OF TEA FIRST
and getting some healthy perspective.
Nettle or cammomile is ideal.
Simply place in hot water and allow to steep.
Sit and relax.
Perhaps, think about making something later. The sort of filling stuff mom made as a child. Wait until all feels calm and the tea has worked it’s magic.
There seems to be many of these times in womens’ lives where there should be a level of understanding to the emotional and spiritual complexity invovled for us; puberty, childbirth, marraige, menopause, becoming a widow- ect. But, true support to flourish through the natural cycles is just not there or encouraged and in fact the opposit seems to be perpetuated against us as women.
Sadly, we live in a culture that expects us to almost preform a certain way during these major life events as women or just basically dissapair in natural form and we’re seen to be shameful and inviting our own pain and abuses by others if not.
Not allowed to transition out of childbaring years gracefully, Not allowed to birth without trauma, Not allowed to marry without total self sacrifice, Not allowed to transition into womanhood without shame, Not allowed to even greive and experience any small still needed joys as well.
But who the fuck is it that we allow to decides these terms and dictates for us?
*Onset of puberty for most women means getting a bra and having to become overly conscience not to offend anyone with our bodies. Or risk being distracting and getting assulted.
*Childbirth for most women means losing all say or control over our own bodies to those better qualified or risk everybody dying.
*Marriage means losing our original names and sometimes aspirations for his name. His dreams or being a total feminist bitch
*Menopause (like childbirth) is viewed by most as a pathology to be controlled…Ha, but it can’t be and the shock of realizing this fact about our bodies so late in life is just crazy making.
*And becoming a widow…
Show me a well known media example where the woman is not either portrayed as a self isolated, wearing black, silent mess OR someone who’s only appearent connection to others is to be financially abused.
Our world needs more people respecting these natural passages, developments and times in womens’ lives as sacred. Protecting and allowing the space for each woman to set her own unique course rather than dictating stereotypes and fear mongering for falling outside the two dimensional sociatal standards of feminity.
Realizing these are specifically vulnerable as well as powerfull times in our lives to be a woman and if our basic rights to simply live our lives and exist as we are are not seen- emotional wellbeing suffers drastically and permenantly.
It just breaks my heart all these totally unecessary, damaging, judgemental and nonsensical constraints still being placed upon women to be totally appeasing to others especially at these pivital moments in our lives and god fucking help us if we do chose to just live our lives because we know innately the sociatal standards of *NOT* respecting women as whole beings are currently wrong.
Look at the extreme body hatred many pubescent girls face.
The high incidence of post partom depression new moms experience.
Domestic abuse in marraiges.
Removal of female parts as the solution to onset of menopause.
And I do try not to dwell on these things as areas for improvement that mainstream feminism chose to ignore in favour of simply erasing puberty, childbirth, marriage, menopause, partners death as valid experiences woman still have…
But, these experiences are all still here for us as women and still potentially isolating as well as more pain inflicted upon us than necessary due to achetypal shackles placed on us from the minds eye- when in truth these times are a huge oppertunity for growth, love and connection.
🍲☠💖 Soupmeyer is a series/compilation creation of 32 cost effective soup recipes accompanied by short stories writen by Canadian Author and Melissa McLarty. Feed the mind/body. New release every friday while series is ongoing. Books by Melissa McLarty available through all Canadian Libraries or for purchase at amazon.com and major retailors by request.📚 Melissa McLarty is also the developer of Children’s Creative Expression Literary program/groups; free copies of program and simple ideas to support children & youth in Literary skills aquisition available by request.✌